*pic somewhat related*So. What is a fairytale?
Define the word 'fairytale'.
Further down the road, define 'fairytale wedding'.
What is called a 'fairytale wedding' can wind up a catastrophe, just as how people can mis-spell 'fairytale' as 'fairytail'.
Speaking of weddings. What is the significance of a wedding? More importantly, what is the significance of a wedding vow?
To love each other to the end of time, to care for each other and to build a loving family.
At least, that is what I understand and what I make of it.
But then... How many people actually carry this out through thick and thin? How many people, as husband and wife, as parents, actually remember the vow and the promise they made each other and made it to the finish line?
With those questions laid out, more comes. Especially when a pair have gotten out of synch.
You know how couples are usually in synch with each other, heart and mind, when they're in love?
What happens after that?
In comes the kids.
What happens then?
Marriage, I've heard, seen and learned, is a delicate thing. Very much so that it's become a three-legged marathon, such that if one runner runs faster than the other, they may or may not be able to regain their tempo. That rhythm that is so essential in a relationship.
Understanding,
Respect,
Love.
What's more, when all these crumble, or at least becomes one-sided... It becomes a burden to the one still standing tall in the relationship.
Ah... right. One-sided relationships.
One-sided marriages, rather.
Imagine a happy family, sitting around the living room. Both parents, smiling away and caring for a smiling and utterly happy child. It melts one's heart to witness this, doesn't it?
But.. behind closed doors. What could happen?
Anything.
That's right, anything.
Now I'm not in favor of the following situation, but I've heard of it quite a long time ago.
Imagine an utterly angry wife, one whose mindset is 'your way or the highway'. Something that people seem to coin as 'queen control'. We take these people as the ones we keep away from, correct?
But what of the husband? The child? The two people who are still clinging onto the relationship, the ones taking this 'punishment'?
It may seem odd, but this does happen. A wife who drives her husband up the wall and gets all high and mighty about everything, and a husband whose definition of love renders him unable to stand up to the wife out of the pure thought that he could never hurt the woman he loves. Above all... This controlling wife vents out on the child.
Such a sad, sad ending for a story that started off to be such a fairytale...
Now that it's become a fairytail, where do we turn at this point? If there are people related to a couple with the problem I've presented above...
What can be done?
What can be offered to ease the pain to their suppressed cries for help?
Because deep down, we know.
We all know.
These people are hurting. They need help. All it takes is for someone to talk to them, or for them to come for help.
To those who know people like these. I'm hoping above all hope that you would be willing to help them, one way or another.
Build their confidence. Make them feel special.
Make them find a new strength within them with your help.
And above all else...
Pray that the new strength they found will be enough to tip the scales and make their relationship well again.
For all their sakes.
